How frequently do you find yourself saying,
“I can’t do it,”
“I’m not good enough,”
“I’ve screwed up,” or
And how frequently do you believe that you require fixing and that someone could cast a magic spell to make you better?
But guess what? You are not damaged and you don’t require repair.
Each of us possesses all we require. The tools, knowledge, and ways of thinking we require are already in our possession.
Just occasionally, certain things become a little lax. It resembles a bicycle that has been left out in the rain, which rusts as a result of the rain and the cold, wet weather, especially around the chain. Some of us may even claim that the bike is broken and that we are throwing it away or have thrown it in the garage’s back corner. However, if we use some WD-40 or other rust-removal solutions, we can actually fix that bike. If we take the time, we can repair the chain and get back to riding the bike.
And while we have everything we need, sometimes those tools are a little rusty or worn out, or we may have forgotten how to use them. Similar to learning to ride a bike, once you know how, you never lose that skill. However, if you haven’t been on a bike for a while, you may become a little rusty. So, those elements are always present in us. We occasionally act in ways that aren’t the most effective for achieving our goals.
When we consider these things, what is it that we’re trying to avoid by handling them in the same old manner, which is giving us the same old result instead of the result we want to have? It may occasionally be a case of set and regain. It’s possible that it’s not really worth risking our way of life. Since anything might happen if we stop doing things the way we’ve always done them, it isn’t really worth trying something new.
As we’ve already stated, “safe is the same.”
Consequently, it’s possible that there is an underlying reason why we act in a certain way and get the result that keeps us in a stuck position. Perhaps even though the result is not what we desire, it is secure for us since we already know what it is. The sameness, safety, and comfort are all present. Even if it may cause us bodily, emotional, and mental discomfort, the end result is still the same, thus we are aware of it.
We may at times derive that safety from things that are actually not safe for us at all and that restrict our ability to express ourselves, so constantly restraining us. Furthermore, the second regain of keeping safe emerges above those things that we wish to, where we want to meet those changes, reinforcing our uncertainty, self-criticism, negative attitudes about ourselves, and anxieties about not having enough. We may not always be conscious of those second regains; therefore, they can be quite important. They are the underlying issue that we are occasionally unaware of; they are not the presented issue. Others may be aware of them, but the most empowering thing is when we learn them for ourselves, when we realize that we actually have all the parts and pieces we need, that we’re not broken thus we don’t need fixing, and that we’re just the right amount of imperfect.
Therefore, whenever you feel inadequate, incapable of accomplishing your goals, or as like you need someone to help you fix yourself, remember this. You are perfectly imperfect, you have it all.